The road back to normal

 Try this brief exercise. Sit or stand, look down at the floor, make your shoulders rounded and take on the appearance of a depressed person. Now, without changing your physical posture, try to feel happy. You will probably find this difficult to achieve. Next, stand up straight, look up, breathe deeply. Then, again without changing your posture, try to feel depressed. It’s difficult to do so. One of the simplest and most powerful ways to improve the way we feel is to simply stand up straight.

May be it’s time to forget what has happened to you in the past. The entire world is open to you. You can do anything you want – if you want to do it enough.

Learn to accept that it is OK just to be you.

We become what we think about. So, practise visualisation. See yourself being more confident and handling situations better. See those around you with happy smiling faces. Expect to be successful. This will improve the likelihood that you will follow through on your new behaviours. Experience feelings of quiet confidence and happiness. Practise your new behaviour with people who don’t know you.

Finally, become the person you are meant to be.

Compiling this book has involved a great deal of research and extensive interviews with victims and abusers (some were unaware they were being interviewed). What alarmed us the most was the huge number of examples we were given that demonstrated beyond any doubt that “women with malicious intent” operate everywhere. So many kind and gentle men and women we spoke to had personal experiences or knew at least one person who had horrific experiences of trying to deal with such women (and so often unsuccessfully).

One woman we talked to so accurately defined these malicious women as tapeworms because they eat their victims from the inside. So, make a decision to stop allowing yourself to be manipulated and abused by being eaten away in this manner. The most disturbing part is how in so many instances malicious women simply get away with it, free to find their next targets.

Become more aware of your own weak spots to minimise the likelihood that you will be targeted by a malicious bully. Stop being an emotional punchbag. And learn to recognise when someone is attempting to “hack” into you, in the same way that a computer hacker may try to gain access to your computer and use or abuse the data stored on it, or how a virus will try to worm its way into your hard drive and cause as much damage as possible. You need to develop your own anti-virus protection to recognise possible attacks and refuse access to these harmful and malicious viruses. Don’t allow yourself to be infected by them any more.

Extracted from “Venus: The Dark Side”. For more information visit www.VenusTheDarkSide.com

© Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary 2008

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